So it’s been four months in Blogs Ville, I started this blog with “Life as a fat girl” because I wanted to talk about my plus size issues, about how I can lose some kg, about diets, the exercises, the reaction of the society and everything I felt would help me lose some weight, I wanted to encourage people like me who has been battling with weight problems and felt life couldn’t be normal if they are not a size 10 or 12. You know what the bible says about examining ourselves whether we are still in the faith…? It’s July 31 and I thought I should examine myself , So I did a lot of measurements and weighing and all, tried some of my fav clothes I didn’t want to give away because I was losing some fat.
The truth is I was size a 20 going on 22 when I started this blog. You know like we all do,I started very aggressive and along the line I dropped to a size 16, good improvement shay? Then I stopped the daily exercises, just did it once in a while, I started cheating on my diet, I used to have just fruits for dinner…now I have real dinner some times and tell myself “shay bi its just one small noodles?” I even eat in a soup bowl to make sure I eat little...lol and guess what? Sometimes I end up going back to the kitchen to take another round. Now I'm almost a size 18, added some extra flesh, why wouldn’t I sef?
I sat on my bed this morning, I couldn’t sleep and am saying to myself, "dayor, you are not disciplined , ahn ahn…so you can't maintain your weight? " . My goal is a size 14, and so I have two more sizes down to go,between I bought a lovely little black dress that I’m wanting so bad to wear and it’s a little tight right now; so I thought that could be a motivation to get back on my weight loss journey...lol.
I fell short of my goal or should I say I'm taking an usually long time to achieve the goal, some of my friends and colleagues still give me the 'look', they even ask me if I’m not ashamed, how can I name my blog “the diary of a fat naija girl”, they feel its something I shouldn't be proud of. I just smile and say that's me , that’s what I want and some of them just shake their know-it-all head and walk away.
But the truth is I’m happy with myself, I may not be a size 14 but I’m a struggling size 16 lol. I’m happy I have permanently changed some eating life styles, I’m totally off fizzy drinks , I eat a lot of vegetables and fruits now, I try not to eat late at night and lots more has changed, I like to give my self a pat on the back and say even though I am not where I thought I will be but I am not also where I used to be.
So I hope to put in more effort and when I have to examine myself again,may be in a month or two..I will be here saying I actually achieved my goal and even went over it ..*smiles*
I’m feeling sleepy now , so I have to go back to bed. Would have loved to post you a picture of “before” and “now” *yawning* , but I have to go answer nature’s call. Have a lovely Sunday y’all.
I also struggle with weight issues. The message is as great as always. We should love ourselves in spite of it.
ReplyDeleteI admire your dogged determination! From Size 20 to size 16 is a HUGE achievement! You deserve an award! If you maintain your current eating habits and some exercises, I believe you will surely achieve your goal. Well done.
ReplyDeleteUhhhmmm, it is well. Can I challenge you to do strictly fruits and vegetables for a whole month? You can spice up the vegetable with a lot of orisisisi, so that it will be more interesting and you won't get bored.
ReplyDeletePlease, try it, I know you can do it.
@Naijalines: That's the message o, in spite of it all, i still love myself
ReplyDelete@Dee:Thanks dear, I plan to stay on my current eating habit and even plan to go an extra mile like @ilola suggested
@ilola:I'm thinking of taking up the challenge, Aug 1st tomorrow is a good date to start, thanks for the idea and for challenging me...*sigh* God help me ooo....I know I can do it though, yes I can
*sigh*
ReplyDeleteWeight loss is a difficult battle
I also have issues with weight and I have come to accept that if I eat too much and exercise too little I will def put on weight.
I used to go to the gym but I absolutely hated it because it made me muscular and actually made me eat more.
What works for me now - less sweets, more fruits, more walking, smaller portions and lots of water.
After a while, you get used to it. i am certainly not a lepa. (Never have been) But after 3 kids....I am a healthy size and I monitor my intake DAILY.
PS - Try not to eat too late also.
xoxoxoxo
It's a journey and life style change and you are well on your way to doing that. It's not easy for anyone.
ReplyDeleteIt's a journey not a destination, you have to constantly remember that.@ people asking if you are not ashamed, pleaseeeeeeee---- people will always have something to complain about, let them biko.
ReplyDeletemore grease to ur elbows o.....just fruits at nite screams discipline to me
ReplyDeleteBlessings ....
ReplyDeletedon't get so down on yourself for not reaching the size 14 goal that you fail to see and celebrate the successes you have already have and how much you have accomplished. I didn't read you celebrating you successful moving from a 22 to a 16, quite remarkable really, instead all i read is how you didn't get to a 14. Sistah please....see the forest from the trees. So you not a 14, you have proven that you capable of doing it, the problem is stop dieting, and instead make it a life style. Diet implies temporary and the first 3 words in diet is DIE. Make a lifestyle change and incorporate all the things that you did that got you successfully to a 16, also have designated days where you allow yourself an indulgence perhaps once a month. If you completely deprive yourself then you setting yourself up. Its about balance sistah, you doing great, just change the head space to lifestyle rather than DIEt
peace.
rhapsody
Being happy with yourself is what matters most. You can then go on from there to be a better you. Love yourself first...then everything else will fall into place in a short while.
ReplyDeleteKeep encouraging yourself that you can reach your goal no matter what. If you fall..get back up and try again. God is your strength.
http://foreversweetlybroken.blogspot.com/
"But the truth is I’m happy with myself..."
ReplyDeleteFor me, thats the best part of your post Dayo. Stay Happy with yourself and if you desire something more... put in the efforts and I am sure with determination and will, you'll get there.
STay blessed Sis and Happy new month.
- LDP
Always happens, when i plan to diet. First goes the exercise, then go the diet:( Good luck to you atleast;) i am no way near to knocking off that extra 20 kgs:P
ReplyDeletethis is a beautiful story yours truely is an orobo o! but i am so lazy to start something! i have tried different ways to loose the wight without commiting too much but the only way is commitment so i decided to start on a fresh journey and i guess its working.i would like to have your email adress cos i have questions and i would like to have someone who understands the situation! my email; flowwithitunu1@yahoo.com you can also check out my blog which has nothing to do with weight but addresses lots of issues...www.laraecxel.blogspot.com. Blessings!
ReplyDeletei just discovered your blog!! as an "obolo" thats what we fatties are called in Ghana who has spiralled from a size 10 to an 18. i totally get it. you've seriously inspired me to do the diet/exercise thing. thanks!!! id love to contact you, so you can give me your diet secrets *wink* lol!
ReplyDelete"I like to give my self a pat on the back and say even though I am not where I thought I will be but I am not also where I used to be."
ReplyDeleteI like to give you a hug sis...be happy that though you aint where you want to be,you are not where you used to be...keep moving sis, and you will surely get there!!!
***hugs and kisses***
You really tried o, from 20 to 16 must have been tough. Keep loving you.
ReplyDelete@N.I.L: weight loss is real hard work o, and thumbs up to you@ healthy weight. I have cut out sweets and drinks too, and I hope to include more walking into my schedule too
ReplyDelete@Madame Sting: I hope to get there and keep it right there
@9jaFoodie: True...its really a journey not a destination
@Olori: Thanks o, I try to be disciplined about it as I can be
@Rhapsody B: Oh oh...I thought I did celebrate myself o..eyah..well I get what you mean and in fact I know it was a lot of work coming down from 22 to 16 den 18 now..lolz..and yes I am making it a lifestyle..I have cut out loads of stuff..frizzy drinks, cakes and ice cream that I happen to love so much..good idea...I will indulge myself every once in a while...thanks a lot
@Sweetly Broken: Awww,thanks for the encouragement..checking out your blog now
@LDP: Yes o! Determination is the watch word. Have a happy new month too
@Cloud Nine: Lol...just take a step at a time. Try and take walks and eat fruits like N.I.L said...you can do it joor!
@Anonymous:I will be happy to hear from you and to share ideas....my email addy is dayo.adeyokunnu@gmail.com, I just sent you a message now too...will check out your blog now too
@Miss Insomnia: 'Obolo' what a name ..lol, In naija we are called 'Orobo' it sounds so alike. I will be happy to hear from you.My email addy is dayo.adeyokunnu@gmail.com, cheers
@Omoba-adeteju: Thanks a lot dear....hugs and kisses right back at you
@Myne Whitman:Will sure keep loving me
@All: Thanks y'all for stopping by...Gracias
i dunno what words of encouragement to give becox i had also given up on the weight issue and just accept the way i am....heart related sickness??...nah today yansh don dey 4 back???.. don't slim people have it??..sorry if this is not coming out well, it's just that i ma FED UP with people that can't let me be! If they want to be LEPACIOUS, then that is their FREAKING business, than them shoving their ideas down my throat! Being fat or slim does not stop who i am or my personality! chikena!
ReplyDeletePlus size or not, you are happy in your skin and that is ultimate. I lost 5kg and 2 dress sizes last year without visiting the gym, no exercises at all, just eating right. You can do it, even if you fail a few times you'll get back on track again!
ReplyDeletecongrats girl, determination will get u everywhere. I never used to care about my weight but now i'm more weight conscious. I hope i'll be half as disciplined as u are lol
ReplyDeleteWhen you try not to eat carbs and more veg you may become hungry. Eating protein and cutting off carbs does the trick for me.
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to keep off carbs for too long. Losing the weight is not what matters but how to maintain it. It's not easy!
How's the fruits and veggie challenge going???
ReplyDelete@Ibhade: Gbam! I feel you oo
ReplyDelete@P.E.T Projects: eating right is the thing o, anh about my veggie and fruit diet..? Its going like that jare..will write about it soon *wink* and thanks for looking out for me,appreciate, Bless!
@Kit kat:Lol, don't be to conscious dear, just live life abd eat right plus..you can do anything you want to...you could even end up more disciplined than I am, who knows?
@Anonymous: Asides eating right, knowing what works for you is also good.
@All: Thanks y'all for stopping by. Your comments make a boring day brighter.
hearing you say your goal is to be a size 14 justs makes me realize that we all have things to be thankful for, i was an 18 for a long time, went down to a 14 and now im a 10/12, and my goal is 8, the fact that someones goal is 14 makes me realize the beauty of life.
ReplyDeletekeep at it love, ud get there