*WARNING* This is a love rant...I needed a place to let it all out as I have been hearing the same rants from a friend for hours now
I am tired of seeing people love and lose. I know I say I'm a sucker for love and that I prefer to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Its just I'm tired of hearing stories of people that get heart broken. People that have loved and loved again after heartbreaks and when I finally think I should start saving money for aso-ebi. I hear the relationship went sour and there is no wedding in sight.
The girl stopped loving the guy, that's why they broke it off. After seeing them do so much together, loving and being there for each other through thick and thin. One of them suddenly stopped loving the other ? I mean these people make me want to love someone. Its crazy how you love someone so hard, be all eaten up inside about them and they simply don't love you again? I don't get how these things happen? Does the part of the brain that control love decides to wipe out the person's name from our memory or the hormones were over-reacting all the while and they suddenly became calm?
So I'm thinking: How long are we supposed to try or attempt love before we give up? I mean is there ever a right time to stop loving? Even after you get your heart broken a million times? Should we even give up on love?
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P.S: This is not my view about love. I wrote this from the "head" of my heart-broken friend.
Before I even comment, I'd like to state that I'm very old fashioned, probably a bit naive and maybe extremely stupid.
ReplyDeleteBut I believe that if you can turn 'love' on an off then it isn't love. Maybe it's lust, maybe infatuation, maybe 'luvst' but not love.
21st century has soiled the definition of love so before we go about loving every tom dick and harry, find out the reason why you think you love them and if you pinpoint it to something that is subject to change (like the way he calls in the morning, or his body, or the fact that no one ever gave you attention like him) then it isn't love.
Love is not dye on cloth... you don't put it in the washer of time and it fades away. It doesn't work that way
Lol, you are so not old school and of course not anywhere near stupid.
DeleteExactly what I have been preaching to this "cry-cry baby" beside me. He needed to hear it from another person.
Thanks for sharing.
I like this flow of thoughts by REinvented.
DeleteIt is unfortunate that your friend has to go through this. But, my advise is that she should re-trace her steps and find out where things went wrong. Love can die if not properly nutured. What others call love is what i call DECISION. you can rescind on your decision to be with someone if that relationship is not properly handled. I also want to tell her that a better LOVER is on the way.
DeleteApparently, some people don't know the true definition of love. Else, we won't be hearing stories like this.
ReplyDeleteGbam! very well said jare. The "lover boy" needs to know the true definition of love.
Delete@ilola has said it all..short and simple
DeleteThe moment you find yourself in love, it becomes a full time job. we dont have to close out heart to love cos our heart got broken but rather allow ourselves to heal and then open our hearts to love again because there will always be someone out there who will love us for what we are truly worth!
ReplyDeleteLove is too strong to die,even when influencing factors are present,factors that threaten to kill it,it still doesn't die.Love is so so strong and intense.One should never attempt to live life without love,it's a very beautiful thing.It hurts alot sometimes,but the sweetness mostly erases memory of the pain it brings.No,we should never give up on love,it's a very good reason to be alive.
ReplyDeleteWhy look for what isn't missing?
ReplyDeleteReally, i don't know.................it baffles me also.
ReplyDeleteIts baffling jare
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ReplyDeleteBlessings.....
ReplyDeletethe truth is love takes work, it has to be balanced with love of self, infused with passion, compassion, empathy, loyalty and commitment, its more than fantasy of everything just coming up roses, because the truth is even roses in all their beauty has thorns that would rip your flesh if you are not careful and mindful of them.
Women and men need to proceed into relationships with their eyes wide open and a willingness to see each other for exactly who they are and not whom they fantasize the person could be, should be or would be and then ask their selves, can I live with this.
The other thing is women and men need to stop pretending to be who they are not in order to win the other’s affection, love and admiration by over compromising , over simplifying their selves, their perspective and belief systems on life and slamming themselves into a world of hurt and disrespect.
To be frank, some stay to long, they do not have the gift of goodbye, they beat the horse of a decaying relationship pumping their energy, hope and faith hoping the oxygenate and renew what has already rotted in the assumption that the dead horse would suddenly rise up and gallop into the sunset of happily ever after.
A good loving relationship takes work, it take commitments, it takes the people involved understanding that they got/must have each other’s back no matter what, they must be committed to the unit of "WE" without doubt and uncertainty and most of all it takes God and prayers.
I have learnt that looking at a relationship from the outside is akin to window shopping, it all looks nice but you don't get a real look and feel for the items being admiring until you go into the store and have a real close up look at what first caught your attention. In other words, "what one see isn't always what is."
What one sees isn't always what is...You always teach me so much.Thanks for sharing
DeleteThis love business sef.
ReplyDeleteAbi o...the thing tire you ba?
DeleteSometimes, people mistake infatuation for love. I believe that "true love never dies" When the oil of a new relationship starts burning dry, it takes love to sustain that relationship. The brain doe not wipe off the people it once loved, it is just that nothing remains new and fresh for ever.
ReplyDeleteLove also ages with time and the fire needs be rekindled. People stop loving because they are not ready to go through the task of trying to renovate what is already wearing off.
No one should give up on love, 'cos true lasts for ever if only we are ready to work on it constantly.
... true love lasts for ever if only we are ready to work on it constantly.
DeleteI have nothing to say... Seriously Dayor!
ReplyDeleteEh eh...miss lara, U must say something o.lol
DeleteLove doesn't suddenly dies. I guess the other 'thing' the person thought was love suddenly died.
ReplyDeleteAs for when to stop loving.....is there an answer to that?