Monday, 8 October 2012

My name is dayor, I think I'm an addict...

Its been a bit I went on blog rounds and i hate that i could not do that for a while. My internet modem has been dealing with me, i spend hours putting up my wordless fridays...arghhh. I've tried visafone and glo before i started using the starcomms izap few months back, the network was so smooth, faster than the speed of thought till two weeks back. Only God knows what happened, made complaints and hopefully starcomms can rectify whatever it is and then i can have my sweet surfing days back.


For my friends that always stop by inspite of my not-nice blogtitude. I'm grateful. Your comments and visits mean the world to me.I'm emerging a better person with a better blogtitude. Thank you! mwuah!


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My name is dayor and i think i'm an addict. i was telling a9jagreat that i have become a social media addict and he was laughing. According to him i sounded funny....may be i sounded funny with all the emotion icons, but my pipo this thing is serious o.

My phone became the first thing in the morning and the last thing i held at night. Egba mi o. It became so bad, a friend was visiting and while he was busy gisting me, i was busy romancing my phone. He had to seize the phone to get my full attention. I felt so bad, and i have since made a conscious effort to keep the phone away.

The phone suddenly became like my second leg, it goes everywhere with me, i was always on twitter(not that i tweet so frequently sef, i just always like the twitter drama) linkedin, eyeing facebook...just always doing one thing or the other on the phone.

My addiction reminded me of our generation,we depend heavily on technology to make sure we have no regrets. The blackberry and iphone has become the quintessential icon of our generation, its addictive qualities  weakens our ability to be in the here and now. We act like surgeons that needs to be reached all the time because we have to save a life.

Our addiction to technology has caused us to stop enjoying moments,we are so glued to our phones sometimes we forget to actually live. Technology has become a way out of having real interactions with real people, we have become somewhat inadequate with words,we prefer to substitute words with funny alphabets and emoticons.

I dont plan to throw my phone off the third mainland bridge, so i consciously pinch myself. i make a conscious effort to live  and interact with people around me instead of living through my contact list or timeline. Curtailing my addiction to technology/social media has been a worthwhile adventure and i am continually working at it.


Does any other person has a similar love with technology/ social media. or its just me?

38 comments:

  1. Lol I can relate, the other day I was running late for some sort of get together of serious people during serious things non-associated with African time (sorry, can't remember exactly what it was called right now).

    So I get to the venue on time and I can't bring my purse in and have to leave it in the car. So I'm checking around for my phone in my purse... checking checking checking... CAN'T FIND IT. 3 minutes late. Uh oh! The walk alone gan sef is another 5 minutes so I decide to go without and get my phone afterwards

    As soon as I step out of the car and head for the building my hands start twitching (not exactly but might as well have been). I suddenly had an urge to check the time... even though I was wearing a watch (only realized that after I was back in the car) and suddenly felt like someone might be dying somewhere and calling me or that an important life changing email was pending.... there is nothing I didn't imagine

    Got into the building. Sat through the thing which took a whole hour (torturous cos I had no phone with me even though I probably wouldn't have used it even if I had it with me).

    I can leave my house and forget to wear shoes, forget earring, forget to unwrap my hair and even forget my key... but forget phone ke? Mbanu

    I don't think... I KNOW I'm an addict lol

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    1. Sigh of relief, Thank God i'm not alone. I was getting scared. Lol.

      I think we just have to live through consciously, i intentionally did not activate my bis for 3 days...all part of the effort.

      And NO you are not an addict, lol.

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  2. Babe, we need a bb-anonymous for you people.

    I'm not exactly in your shoes because i love my me-time so i generally ignore my phone sometimes. I get how addictive it can be though. I don't grab my phone 1st thing in the morning so whatever you have to say has to chill till like mid-day. I have a life and i am going to live it. Bb/twitter/fb can like take a back seat. Addictive somthings

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  3. Lol @ bb anonymous.

    I used to like and have a lot of me-time and i'm gonna get it back....lol. I envy u joor

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  4. lool, aren't we all at some point?! i was an addict but not anymore:)

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  5. Like NikkiSho I think it's a phase. It'll pass. Bb anonymous doesn't sound so bad though. Lol... U can start it

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    1. Its gradually passing away, i am creating more activities to take my time...lol at bb anonymous

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  6. I can sooo relate to this.. But I think my phase of addiction has gone, at a time I would almost have a panic attack when I don't see or my eyes aint glued to my phone(To think that then I wasn't even using a bb).. now I can do without my phone. I just lost interest maybe because of the negativity I noticed on social media *shurgs* Either ways I Love my phone and the internet but I now just know where to draw the line :)

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    1. Knowing where to draw the line is really important

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  7. lol...this is the exact reason i dumped my blackberry. i'm glad i lost interest in the whole bb thing ... but err....twitter...err....*coughs*...not sure the "LOVE" (not addiction) can be cured anytime soon.

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    1. Emm, ermm....so someoneis addicted to twitter, sorry in love with twitter. Lol

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  8. yeah, i did that BIS off thing for some days too when i saw the thing was starting to do one-kind for my body and so, i told it to park well...jooor oo..lool and its been berra.
    dont worry, you'll get through..there was even a time my mum had to scold me about my movie watching and i mellowed, and sometimes too, the spirit tells you to come apart to God, and so, you have to go and get refreshed and live life, the real life in God's presence o jare..
    don't worry, this too shall pass. you're a strong woman and i believe you're going to overcome it by God's grace

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  9. I really don't think its just the  thing. Before I started using a blackberry(which is even recently) I was using a nokia and I was hooked. Ma roomie then used to yab me that if ma phone was taken away from me for a min I'll have a generalised seizure!! It was that bad. When she heard I got a  ,ha! She said ma own is finished.

    Am an addict (on the recovery path).

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    1. Lol, generalised seizure lohun lohun....thank God we are both on the recovery path

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  10. LOL...it's not just you dear. I actually grab my phone sometimes,first thing in the morning but, I won't say I'm addicted though.. It's cool you're trying to fight the addiction.

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  11. LOL...it's not just you dear. I actually grab my phone sometimes,first thing in the morning but, I won't say I'm addicted though.. It's cool you're trying to fight the addiction.

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  12. LOL...it's not just you dear. I actually grab my phone sometimes,first thing in the morning but, I won't say I'm addicted though.. It's cool you're trying to fight the addiction.

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  13. The first step to attacking a problem is actually identifying the problem.You already have done this so i see you working to fight it.

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    1. Yes o! Happy birthday again....this is your best year yet!

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  14. I am not an addict o. Are you sure? If you are not an addict then why can't you concentrate on anything unless you have gone Online? The first thing you want to do in the Morning is grab your phone. The only reason you don't do it is that Kids will be late for School. Continue to deceive yourself that you are not an addict. ( so via my alter ego's voice)

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    1. No, i have not...but i have three modems already na. Sad face. Will probably get etisalat for back-up sake. Thanks hun

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  16. It's a national 'state of affairs'...romancing social media. It's taken the world by storm. You are not alone. It takes an intentional effort to choose balance. Technology is our way of life now. But it can easily rob us of life if we don't keep it in balance. Proud of you for seeing it in the light. Keep trying. Don't let a piece of technology turn you into a slave. You were created to be FREE!

    blessings
    patrina <")>><

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    1. Created to free, yes i am!

      Thanks for stopping by

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  17. I can see you have stolen the word I created 'blogtitude'. You would have to pay for that.

    I have a friend that was in your shoes. Very brilliant doctor who was doing a masters in Health Management or something like that in Imperial College, just to tell you that the girl has brains.

    You know what she did... first is that she changed from a Blackberry to all these old Nokia phones that don't use internet, all those white screen N2,000.00 phones, in spite of her big gal status.

    Next thing she did is that she asked her sister to change her facebook password cos she realised that she just yarns rubbish internet lingo on facebook. Whenever she wants to be on facebook, she will tell her sister, who will then sign in for her, and she would only be there for a few minutes or hours, sharing stuffs about the next business seminar in Imperial college, or those high-class stuffs they do. She said she did all these because her addiction was getting her into trouble.

    What I am saying is that if you really want to curb this, you might need to be accountable to someone.

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    1. Hahahahahahaha, beeni o, i stole your word. How much do i pay now?

      I like this idea of being accountable, it might be hard at first but i sure will work out a plan and find someone to be accountable to. thanks Atilola for sharing this.

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  18. There is a balance for everything, even social media.

    I have never allowed the lack of it to affect my ability to enjoy other delicious aspects of life -like reading a good book in a quiet spot, or going for a long walk or engaging someone in intelligent conversation or something.
    These days I keep my social media usage on my mobile phone to the barest minimum. The way I look at it -whenever I don't go online, the world won't cease to exist, no?

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  19. I keep myself from being an addict because
    - I havent got a facebook profile
    - I use my Blackberries for emails (work and personal)
    - I dont do BBM
    - I switch off my phones by 8pm every evening (or when hubby gets home)
    However, my Linkedin is valuable for keeping valuable contacts
    Balance is key

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  20. Hmm...i was once getting addicted to blogging before i went on my self-imposed sabbatical leave....now, i can go without blogging or using any the social media for many days.

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  21. I like twitter drama also
    lol!
    I can be quite the drama queen if
    i am up for it.

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  22. Everyone is addicted one way or the other to phones, social media, gossip....... At times my hubby complains about my addiction to my phone and I tell him he's not any way better than me cos he's also always on the phone..hehehehe....sometimes we do competition on who can stay longer without touching phone sef

    It's not healthy but we have so far been able to reduce it, hopefully, it won't be able a challenge anymore. Some weekends now, I leave my phone behind when am going out and the world hasn't collapsed ........I definitely will overcome

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  23. So true that our technologies in hand are keeping us from seeing what is going on and enjoying some other aspects of life.

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  24. Yes and this is one of the reasons why I signed off FB even though it was one of the chief ways I used to get news about my books out there. I needed to get away from all the 'noise'. It is also the reason whu, when my BB broke, I just refused to replace it. The noise reduced and with the new silence came back my equilibrium. So all I am now is a blog junkie and my blog Ineed for my peace of mind.......its my mental spa of sorts.

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  25. I think i shall take a leaf out of NIL's book and switch off my phone when hubby gets home, I have been accused of having an affair with it o :-) but I blame him jor, na jeje I had one rubbish phone like that and he went and changed it to a smart phone, the rest is history as they say but honestly one must not let these things take over, the minute I notice I'm getting attached to anything, I detach sharp sharp, there's a time for everything.

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